Godly Success In Marriage

Clarify before you 'JUMP'

LKY's definition of "JUMP" : Angry, furious, comm down-stand for communication down between spouse.
Last week in our group fellowship we have touched concerning how quick we have react over certain things with our spouse even before clarify. For eg: after coming home late from work, all you see was a note on the fridge saying :Hi honey, can you pls vacuum and mop the floor, i have to attend a meeting. What is your reaction, would you "jump"? telling yourself, after a long day at work, i still have to do all these, what had she been doing the whole day? the more you reason, the more you will get angry, is just like the boiling water, waiting to be boiled.
Looking back my experience, it was a nice evening that i have the time to pick up my wife from work, and so i called her and arranged to pick her at certain time, so to give her surprise, i bought some snack, knowing she always skip her dinner. What happened? 10 mins passed, 30 mins passed, almost an hour late. Start to call her, did not pick up my line, within me, from a cool water, now began to boil...........
And when i see her, all i say is : "why so late................., follow by comm down". How often we have made this "grave" mistake. So i learn, nowaday, if i am going to pick her, firstly, i must have a prepared mind that she might be late and secondly, i have to clarify with her before i "Jump" and let the evil one comes between us.
This is part of the package of "Marriage". Do not self-interpret the situation, but clarify with your spouse.

posted by Lighthouse @ 8:00 AM