Godly Success In Marriage

What is Love & Red Flag

A)Just to continue what Bro Kian Heng has shared:

1) Firstly, Bro Kian Heng mentioned : Love does not seek its own

1Co 13:4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

1Co 13:5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;

1Co 13:6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;

1Co 13:7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

1Co 13:8 Love never fails.

2)Secondly, he mentioned not to made/commit that 3 words to your partner easily, i thought he would mentioned “Pls marry me”, instead he mentioned “I Love You”. But i guess, many of us would have said more than hundreds of times “I Love You” before we comes to propose to our loved one, right? So have we taken this 3 words “ I love You” lightly.

So, what is Love: Our Definition of LOVE.

The American Heritage Dictionary defines love as "an intense affection for another person based on familial or personal ties". Often this "intense affection" stems from a sexual attraction for that other person. We love other people, or we say we love other people, when we are attracted to them and when they make us feel good. Notice that a key phrase in the dictionary definition of love is the phrase "based on". This phrase implies that we love conditionally; in other words, we love someone because they fulfill a condition that we require before we can love them. How many times have you heard or said, "I love you because you are cute;" or "I love you because you take good care of me;" or "I love you because you are fun to be with"?

Our love is not only conditional, it is also changeable,fickle. We love based on feelings and emotions that can change from one moment to the next.

Husband & Wife

Wife:

Eph 5:24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Husband:

Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

Eph 5:28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.

Eph 5:29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

B)Red Flag:

Any relationship will have its difficulties, but sometimes those difficulties are indicators of deep-rooted problems that, if not addressed quickly, will poison your marriage. If any of the following caution signs exist in your relationship, we recommend you fellowship with the elderly or serving ones..

• He/She is overly-dependent on parents for finances, decision-making or emotional security.

• He/She shows a pattern of dishonesty, rationalizing questionable behavior or twisting words to his or her benefit.

• He/She exhibits patterns of physical, emotional or sexual abuse toward you or others. If he or she has ever threatened to hit you or actually struck you, this is a warning sign of future abuse. If he or she puts you down or continually criticizes you, this is a sign of emotional abusiveness.

• He/She displays signs of drug or alcohol abuse: unexplained absences or missed dates, frequent car accidents, the smell of alcohol or strong odor of mouthwash, erratic behavior or emotional swings, physical signs such as red eyes, unkempt look, unexplained nervousness, etc.

• He/She displayed a sudden, dramatic change in lifestyle as you began dating. (He or she may be changing just to win you and will revert back to old habits after marriage.)

posted by Lighthouse @ 7:36 AM